Choosing Spirit-Led Love Over Settling

You Get What You Tolerate: Stop wasting sacred time on relationships that dishonour your soul. Raise your standards. Love yourself the way God intended.

There are so many people settling in relationships simply because of time, history, or emotional investment. I have a friend who was in a long-term partnership - they lived like a married couple, families were close, everything seemed “set.” But when one of them cheated, the other walked away. As painful as that was, it revealed a truth: when there’s misalignment, love alone is not enough to make it work.

You can try to stay in a relationship that doesn’t honour you, but it will come at the cost of your peace, your spirit, and eventually, your sense of self-worth. God gave us life and time - both sacred gifts. Why waste them on someone who doesn’t love you the way your Creator intended for you to be loved?

Too many people settle because they don’t know what they’re worth. Maybe they never had healthy models of love growing up. Maybe they believe they’re undeserving of a deeper love because they’ve never experienced it. But here’s the truth: unconditional love can only come from God and from the self that is rooted in God. The flesh can’t offer that - it’s selfish, reactive, and desire-driven. But the spirit? The spirit moves with compassion, wisdom, boundaries, and discernment.

We live in a world where many people are disconnected from their spirit. But you don’t have to be one of them. By learning to give yourself unconditional love first, even if no one else does, you begin to raise your standards. And over time, those standards shape what you accept. Eventually, they shape what you attract. Because you get what you tolerate. And when you stop tolerating misaligned love, you make room for love that is sacred, aligned, and whole.